When a marriage started to deteriorates, one of the most conflicting questionn a person my ask is:

Do you stay and fight for the marriage, or do you leave and fight for your dignity,/integrity?

Many people have been told, “If he’s not beating you, STAY.”

However, physical abuse is not the only form of abuse.

There is emotional abuse that slowly chips away at your self-worth.

  financial abuse that controls your freedom and independence.

 psychological abuse that leaves you questioning your own mental reality.

mental abuse that creates anxiety, fear, and emotional exhaustion.

Bruises aren’t always visible. Often the most lasting is the marks you don’t  see.

Some wounds are carried in the heart, mind, and spirit.

Marriage is not supposed to be a prison sentence. It is meant to be a partnership built on love, loyalty, trust, respect, and mutual support. When those foundations begin to crumble, difficult decisions must be made, like do I stay, or do I go?

Of course, no marriage is perfect. Every relationship experiences challenges, disagreements, disappointments, and seasons of struggles.

Some marriages may be salvageable but only when both people are willing to acknowledge and communicate the problems, take responsibility, seek help, and do the necessary work.

The key words is both people.

One person cannot save a marriage alone. One person cannot carry the entire burden of making changes.

So where do you draw the line?

What boundaries are non-negotiables do you put in place?

What behaviors are you willing to work through, and what are you unwilling to tolerate?

At what point does preserving the marriage come at the cost of losing yourself?

But one thing is certain: Love should never require you to abandon your dignity, your safety,  self-respect, or peace of mind.

Let me hear your thoughts!!

• Would you stay and fight for the marriage, or would you walk away?
• What are your non-negotiable or boundaries in a relationship?
• divorce or stay?!!